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The meanings of Love

10 Nov

Ancient Greek has four distinct words for love: agápe, éros, philía, and storgē. However, as with other languages, it has been historically difficult to separate the meanings of these words.

Agápe (αγάπη agápē) means “love” (brotherly love) in modern day Greek, such as in the term s’agapo (Σ’αγαπώ), which means “I love you”. In Ancient Greek, it often refers to a general affection or deeper sense of “true love” rather than the attraction suggested by “eros”. Agape is used in the biblical passage known as the “love chapter”, 1 Corinthians 13, and is described there and throughout the New Testament as sacrificial love. Agape is also used in ancient texts to denote feelings for a good meal, one’s children, and the feelings for a spouse. It can be described as the feeling of being content or holding one in high regard.

Éros (έρως érōs) is passionate love, with sensual desire and longing. The Modern Greek word “erotas” means “intimate love;” however, eros does not have to be sexual in nature. Eros can be interpreted as a love for someone whom you love more than the philia, love of friendship. It can also apply to dating relationships as well as marriage. Plato refined his own definition: Although eros is initially felt for a person, with contemplation it becomes an appreciation of the beauty within that person, or even becomes appreciation of beauty itself. Plato does not talk of physical attraction as a necessary part of love, hence the use of the word platonic to mean, “without physical attraction.” Plato also said eros helps the soul recall knowledge of beauty, and contributes to an understanding of spiritual truth. Lovers and philosophers are all inspired to seek truth by eros. The most famous ancient work on the subject of eros is Plato’s Symposium, which is a discussion among the students of Socrates on the nature of eros.

Philia (φιλία philía) means friendship in modern Greek. It is a dispassionate virtuous love, a concept developed by Aristotle. It includes loyalty to friends, family, and community, and requires virtue, equality and familiarity. In ancient texts, philos denoted a general type of love, used for love between family, between friends, a desire or enjoyment of an activity, as well as between lovers.

Storge (στοργή storgē) means “affection” in ancient and modern Greek. It is natural affection, like that felt by parents for offspring. Rarely used in ancient works, and then almost exclusively as a descriptor of relationships within the family. It is also known to express mere acceptance or putting up with situations, as in “loving” the tyrant.

22 Oct

My Feelings

22 Oct

Sometimes I feel like this is all a joke to you. That you carefully wedged yourself into my life, purposely altered my feelings, broke me down to love you, just to do it. No rational or meaning behind it. I feel like I have to go into self preservation mode. Watch you carefully, sit down at my chess table and strategically get my life back from you because I’m unsure if you can adequately care for me or my heart.

I want Something Real

22 Oct

I want a relationship where I feel like no distance could keep us apart.

 I want a relationship where our insecurities are buried and kept sealed when we’re together.

 I want a relationship where lust doesn’t take over your true feelings.

I want a relationship where I feel like I’m talking to my best friend but also knowing that they are my one and only.

 I want a relationship where we can put aside our flaws and enhance the beauty of it.

I want something real.

Love Prayer

2 Oct

Ok…may our love that will be, elevate and supercede our preceptions of existing relationships. Let the freedom that THIS love embodies break strongholds and remove the scales off of our eyes to see what normality blinds us to. May this small meditation for our relationship become (one of many) bylaws of which we govern ourselves to. Let this bond also depict the magnitude of pure trueness in it’s raw entirety

Isn’t this a beautiful prayer for love?